EXOD848 The Rabbis taught: Whence is it derived that a judge should not hear the plea of one litigant before the other arrives, and that one litigant should not voice his plea to the judge before the other arrives? From "From a thing of falsehood you shall keep far" (Shevuoth 31a).

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EXOD849 The Rabbis taught: Whence is it derived that if two arrive for a litigation, one dressed in rags, and the other in finery of a hundred maneh, the second is told: Dress yourself as he is dressed or dress him as you are dressed? From: "From a thing a falsehood you shall keep far" (Shevuoth 30b).

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EXOD853 Hillel tells us that we should not be primarily concerned with how our words correspond to verifiable reality, but rather for the impact our statement will have on another person. The article (or bride) maybe very blemished--anyone with eyes can see that--but does that obligate us to speak that truth? His answer is no, not if a person will be hurt by our speech.

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EXOD856 Said the school of Hillel to the school of Shammai: If someone makes a peculiar acquisition in the market, should one praise or deprecate it? Surely one should praise it. Based on this the sages taught: One should always try to be pleasant with people" (Ket. 17a). So too "If sexual relations with your wife make you late to the synagogue and people ask why you were delayed, ascribe it to something else" (Bava Batra 23b). The twentieth-century rav, Eliyahu Dessler, concurred: "Sometimes it may be wrong to 'tell the truth' about our neighbor... and sometimes it may be necessary to change details, when the plain truth would injure" (Mikhtav MeEliyahu). When Francie's late mother-in-law suspected that she had a life-threatening illness, she trusted her family to lie to her rather than scare her with the doctor's grim prognosis. Not telling her the medical "truth" about her condition was not totally honest, yet it supported a worry-free atmosphere that assuredly extended her life. There are other times when you must respect a loved one's final wishes and not betray a trust, though every fiber of your being wants you to do so. Francie's mother, the only person in her immediate family to survive the Holocaust, wanted to be cremated as they had been. She also asked that her ashes be scattered, so that no cemetery headstone would mark her earthly remains. She trusted her husband and daughters to carry out these difficult tasks, even though this would hurt them and was contrary to traditional Jewish law. Fulfilling that trust more than twenty years ago was perhaps the hardest task Francie ever faced.

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EXOD854 "From a false matter you shall keep yourself far." If you add untrue details to the loshon hora that you speak about someone, you violate this commandment.

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EXOD855 Although it is usually forbidden to lie, at times it is permissible to tell an untruth. The following are some examples: 1) It is permitted to tell an untruth to make peace between two people who are having a dispute, or to save someone from harm. For example, you may tell someone that a person with whom he has quarreled now regrets his behavior, even if it is not true. (Yevomos 65b; Rambam, Hilchos Gzaila Veavaida 14:13). However, you are permitted to tell an untruth to promote peace only in situations when you have no other options (Emes Knaih, p. 46). Moreover, your words should be as close to the truth as possible. (See Rashi on Braishis 27:19). 2) If you were a guest at someone’s house and the host was very hospitable, you should not tell an unscrupulous person about the hospitality extended, since he might take advantage of the host. (Hilchos Gzaila Veavaida 14:13). 3) When someone asks you for information that would constitute r’chilus (needlessly telling someone that another person said or did something against him) if you answer truthfully, you should tell a lie rather than relate that information. For example, Reuven asks you what Shimon said about him. Shimon had said something derogatory. If you tell Reuven the complete truth, you will be guilty of relating r’chilus. What should you do? If you can avoid telling an outright lie, you must do so. Very often by simply leaving out a few details your narrative will be free from r’chilus. If this is not possible, you are permitted to lie for the sake of peace. (Chofetz Chayim, Laws of R’chilus 1:8); Guard Your Tongue, pp. 137-8). 4) You are permitted to tell an untruth out of humility. For example, if someone asks you how well you know a certain tractate of the Talmud, even if you know it well, you are permitted to say that you do not. (Rashi to Bava Metzia 23b). 5) You are permitted to deceive someone who is trying to deceive you in order to save yourself from being cheated (Megilah 13b). However, you may not deceive someone as a revenge for a past wrong which has been perpetrated against you. (Orach Maisharim: Shulchan Aruch L’midos 28:2 and footnote 5). For example, if you suspect someone to be a thief and he asks you for information in order to find out when you will not be home, you are permitted to lie and say that you or someone else will be home, even though it is not true. However, if someone cheated you in a certain business deal, you are not allowed to cheat him on another occasion. 6) When someone purchases an item, you are permitted to praise what he bought even though the article does not deserve the praise. Similarly, you are permitted to praise a bride, even though she does not deserve that praise. (Ksubos 17a). 7) It is permitted to lie to save one’s life. (See Nedorim 22a). 8) A teacher is permitted to say an incorrect statement to his students in order to check their alertness and to see if they remember what they have learned. (Rambam, Hilchos Talmud Torah 4:6). 9) It is not considered lying when a person makes a statement that everyone understands to be an exaggeration. (For example, “I’ve told you a thousand times.”) (Orach Maishorim 9:11). 10) It is not considered lying to call someone who is not related to you, “My son,” or “My brother,” as a means of showing endearment. (Orach Maishorim 9:10).

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EXOD857 Do not decide court cases on the basis of circumstantial evidence. Courts are not allowed to sentence anyone to death unless there are two eyewitnesses, both of whom testify in court that the defendant did as charged. If witnesses say only that it is probable or it seems to them that he did the forbidden act, their words are not considered testimony. Similarly, if two witnesses speak against somebody, one saying that he saw him desecrate Shabbos and the other saying that he saw him worship an idol, their words provide no basis for a trial against this person. It is not considered testimony. It is unthinkable to put someone to death on the basis of circumstantial evidence and opinion, even if the facts seem to leave no doubt as to his guilt. If the Torah allowed courts to administer the death penalty on the basis of strong circumstantial evidence, it would lead to the execution of other defendants on the basis of weaker circumstantial evidence, until God forbid, someone could be put to death for an act that he never did. Therefore, Hashem leaves no room for such a possibility. He forbids courts to judge on the basis of any circumstantial evidence.

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EXOD858 We are forbidden to lie. When someone lies, he violates a Torah prohibition (Chofetz Chayim, Positive commandment 13). The Talmud (Sanhedrin 92a) expresses the severity of lying by equating it with idolatry. The Sages (Sotah 42a) list liars among those who will not behold the Divine Presence in the world to come, as it is written, "He that spreads falsehood shall not be established before My eyes" (T'hilim 101:7). Since there are certain situations when it is permissible to distort the truth, as will be listed below, questions might arise about the permissibility to say something that is not true in specific instances. [The author lists twenty-two basic laws of this prohibition and ten instances in which it is permissible to tell an untruth].

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EXOD859 See [[LEV532]] Leviticus 19:16 talebearer DORFFLOV 50

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EXOD860 Let you say: I will take money and not pervert judgment, it is written: "for a bribe blinds" (Mechilta).

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