DEUT1453 God's role as covenant partner and as Israel's Lover probably has the greatest effect on creating moral character within us. We should abide by God's commandments, in part, because we were at Sinai, we promised to obey them there, and we should keep our promises. Thus, as the Haggadah of Passover reminds us, "In each and every generation a person is obliged to view himself as if he himself went out of Egypt" on the trek to Sinai, where God made the covenant with all generations to come: "It is not with you alone that I created this Covenant and this oath [of obedience], but with those who are standing with us this day before the Lord, our God, and with those who are not with us today.… Secret things belong to the Lord, our God, but that which has been revealed is for us and our children forever to carry out the words of this Torah." (This verse, Deuteronomy 29:28). Ultimately, though, God serves to shape moral character by entering into a loving relationship with us. That is, not only is the covenant a legal document, with provisions for those who abide by it and those who do not, but also the covenant announces formal recognition of a relationship that has existed for a long while and that is intended to last, much as a covenant of marriage does. Relationships, especially intense ones like marriage, create mutual obligations that are fulfilled by the partners sometimes grudgingly but often lovingly, with no thought of a quid pro quo return. For God, as for a human marital partner (God is depicted as Israel's marital partner a number of times in the Bible, whether fondly, as in Jeremiah 2:2, or angrily when Israel proves to be an unfaithful lover, as in Hosea 2), we should do what the norms of morality require, and then we should go beyond the letter of the law (lifnim m'shurat ha-din) to do favors for our beloved. In moral terms, we then become the kind of people who seek to do both the right and the good, not out of hope for award but simply because that is the kind of people we are and the kind of relationships we have.
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