DEUT413 Similarly, when one marries, he should do so for the sake of Heaven, to fulfill the command to be fruitful and have children who will serve Hashem and be God-fearing. Another valid motivation is desiring to satisfy his urge and assuage his desire through his wife, so that he will not desire other women; or to live with his wife when he sees that she desires him, so that she will not desire other men. Likewise, he may be justly motivated by a desire for the well–being of his body, the emission of semen being conducive to bodily health. But if one overindulges in intercourse, he will fall prey to many illnesses. One who follows this course all of his days serves the Blessed One constantly, even in his business, and even in his conjugal relations, for his thought in all is to satisfy his needs so that his body will be in the proper state for Divine service. And even when he sleeps, if he does so for the purpose of resting mind and body so that he not become ill and be impeded from Divine service, then his sleeping becomes a form of Divine service in itself. Our Sages commanded us in this respect, saying (Avos 2:12): "And let all of your deeds be for the sake of Heaven." As stated by Shelomo in his wisdom (Mishlei 3:6): "In all of your ways, know Him, and He will straighten your paths." Let a man abandon all loves and cleave to the love of the Creator, Blessed be He. The love of the Blessed One is the object of all the qualities, the end of all the virtues on the scale of all the servants of Hashem. All of the traits are as a ladder to the attainment of love. It is the soul–gift of the saintly, the prophets, and the consecrated ones--it is the end of all; there is nothing higher than it. Many times the Torah places fear of God before love of Him, as it is written [this verse]: "And now, Israel, what does Hashem your God ask of you but to fear Him and to love Him." And because fear is the end and epitome of self-consecration and the closest of the approaches to the level of the love of God, and because it is impossible for a man to attain it unless it be preceded by fear and awe of God--therefore, fear precedes love. And what is this love? It is the pining of the soul and its natural inclination toward the Exalted Creator, to cleave to His Divine light.