GEN1467 Jacob is the Bible’s most prominent example of a parent who could not be consoled.   … Though we can all understand unending grief, particularly after the death of a child, the Shulchan Arukh law rules that a person “should not grieve too much for the dead, and whoever grieves excessively is really grieving for someone else.   [The ArtScroll translation and commentary understands this Talmudic passage as being more in the nature of a curse than of a psychological observation and renders it as follows: “Anyone who grieves over his dead to excess will ultimately weep for another dead.” The commentary explains this teaching (in line with a statement of Rashi) as meaning that “whoever chooses to wallow in grief will be paid with further grief.”] The Torah has set limits for every stage of grief, and we may not add to them. Yoreh Deah 394:1, based on Mo’ed Kattan 27b.   TELVOL 2:131-2