GEN803 What should a person do when he wants to hate someone, as the Torah forbids hating?  How can he or she be around this person and see the object of his or her hatred on a regular basis, and not display this emotion?  The Rabbis, based on the precedent of Abraham, give us one possible remedy. When Abraham saw that his nephew Lot and Lot’s shepherds were acting in an immoral and despicable manner (by stealing the grazing land of others), in order not to come to the forbidden emotion of hate over these actions, Abraham asked Lot to depart from him and gave him the choice of the best lands.  Thus, by choosing to avoid any further contact with these people, Abraham rid himself of his ill feelings before those feelings could turn into actual hatred.  AMJV 130