GEN392 The inclination to deny responsibility for wrongs we have committed is deeply rooted.  Always try to acknowledge your responsibility and, above all, refrain from blaming others.  After all, if you deserve praise for the good you do, don’t you deserve criticism for the wrong?  It is also vital not to point out faults in whoever is rebuking you, since this is irrelevant.  It is also a common temptation.  Rabbi Tarfon noted how common it was for people to respond defensively: “If one says to another, ‘Remove the chip of wood from between your eyes,’ the other responds, “Remove the log from between your eyes’” Arachin 16b  TELVOL 1:393