GEN340 … filial responsibility is not derived from, or connected to, unique filial love.  We recall Maimonides’ assertion that filial patience must sometimes fall back upon the “awe and fear of the King of Kings who commanded him thus.” The Midrash similarly dissociates honor and love when discussing…the relationship of a man to his wife and his relationship to his parents: “Until a man takes a wife, he directs his love toward his parents. Once he marries, he directs his love toward his wife, as we read, Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave until his wife and they shall be one flesh. [this verse]. Does a man leave his parents in the sense that he is free of the obligation to honor them? Rather, his soul’s love cleaves to his wife …  BLIDSTEIN 55-6