GEN1613 Strive to let your forgiveness be wholehearted. One way to achieve this is to reflect on some unintended good that resulted from the wrong done to you.   As Joseph says to his brothers, [this verse].  When others harm us, it frequently forces us to grow in ways we would otherwise not have done. Joesph had been arrogant as a young man, but because of the suffering he endured, he became more humble.  As a result of what his brothers did to him, he was ultimately put into a position at the court of Pharaoh in which he achieved great power and saved many thousands of lives.  … If you find it very hard to forgive someone—particularly somebody who has asked for forgiveness—see whether you can find any personal growth or other good that came about because of what happened.   On the basis of that, find it in your heart to forgive the person who hurt you, or at least to stop bearing a grudge.   TELVOL1:207