GEN305 When you have a problem, consult with people you know to be wise. “The more counsel, the more understanding” The Ethics of the Fathers 2:8 Indeed, one reason “it is not good for man to be alone” is that we are forced to make major life decisions without the counsel of a sympathetic friend.  For example, some years ago, a friend did something that hurt me deeply.  I wrote him an angry but, in my opinion fair, letter, then showed it to several friends before I sent it.  Two of them told me that one paragraph in the letter was too hurtfully personal.  I deleted it.  My friend responded to my letter, and apologized.  Thus the matter was resolved amicably.  To this day I am certain that had I not shown the letter to other people and followed their advice to delete the offensive paragraph, the letter would have been counterproductive and might have ended our friendship.  TELVOL 1:146-7