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LEVITICUS — 13:45 grow

LEV140 If we are aware of our own faults we will not look for the faults of others. The Chofetz Chayim explained that the metzora must rend his garments and let his hair grow to teach humility. Tzoraas comes from speaking loshon hora. One of the main reasons a person speaks against others is because he feels that he is superior to them. If a person is truly aware of this faults, he will not seek out the faults of others. Therefore, the metzora must conduct himself in a lowly manner to train himself not to look upon others. (Shmiras Haloshon 2:16).

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LEVITICUS — 13:45 unclean

LEV144 We should pray for others even if we are not asked to do so. The Talmud states that the metzora shouted out, "Unclean! Unclean!" to publicize his plight in order that people should pray for his recovery. The Talmud adds that the same applies to anyone who is suffering. He should notify the public about his problem, and they will pray to God to have mercy upon him (Sotah 32b). From here we learn that when we hear about someone else's misfortune we should pray for that person even if we are not explicitly asked to do so. The Talmud does not state that the person whom misfortune has befallen must ask others to pray for him; all needs to do is publicize his plight. On their own the public will understand that they have an obligation to pray for him. The Chofetz Chayim notes that this principle is specifically mentioned with reference to a metzora. The Zohar states that the prayers of a person who speaks loshon hora are not accepted. Since the metzora has spoken loshon hora, his own prayers will not help. Hence, he needs others to pray on his behalf. (Shmiras Haloshon 1:7).

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LEVITICUS — 13:45 unclean

LEV143 These are quintessential expressions of shame. First is the stigma, the public marks of disgrace or dishonor (the torn clothes, the unkempt hair). Then comes the ostracism, temporary exclusion from the normal affairs of society. These have nothing to do with illness and everything to do with social disapproval. This is what makes the laws of tzaraat so hard to understand at first: it is one of the rare appearances of public shame in a non-shame-based culture, a guilt-based culture. It happened, though, not because society had expressed its disapproval but because God was signaling that it should do so. Why specifically in the case of lashon hara, "evil speech"? Because speech is what holds society together. Anthropologists have argued that language evolved among humans precisely in order to strengthen the bonds between them so that they could cooperate in larger groupings than any other animal. What sustains cooperation is trust. This allows and encourages me to make sacrifices for the group, knowing that others can be relied on to do likewise. This is precisely why lashon hara is so destructive. It undermines trust. It makes people suspicious about one another. It weakens the bonds that hold the group together. If unchecked, lashon hara will destroy any group it attacks -- a family, a team, a community, even a nation. Hence its uniquely malicious character; it uses the power of language to weaken the very thing language was brought into being to create, namely, the trust that sustains the social bond. That is why the punishment for lashon hara was to be temporarily excluded from society by public exposure (the signs that appear on walls, furniture, clothes, and skin), stigmatism and shame (the torn clothes, etc.), and ostracism (being forced to live outside the camp). It is difficult, perhaps impossible, to punish the malicious gossiper using the normal conventions of law – – courts and the establishment of guilt. This can be done in the case of motzi shem ra, libel or slander, because these are all cases of making a false statement. Lashon hara is more subtle. It is done not by falsehood but by insinuation. There are many ways of harming a person's reputation without actually telling a lie. Someone accused of lashon hara can easily say, "I didn't say it, I didn't mean it, and even if I did, I did not say anything that was untrue." The best way of dealing with people who poison relationships without actually ordering falsehoods is by naming, shaming, and shunning them. That, according to the sages, is what tzarrat miraculously did in ancient times. It no longer exist in the form described in the Torah. But the use of the Internet and social media as instruments of public shaming illustrates both the power and the danger of a culture of shame. Only rarely does the Torah invoke it, and in the case of the metzora only by an act of God, not Society. Yet the moral of the metzora remains. Malicious gossip, lashon hara, undermines relationships, erodes the social bond, and damages trust. It deserves to be exposed and shamed. Never speak ill of others, and stay far from those who do.

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LEVITICUS — 13:45 unclean

LEV142 The written Torah states: "The leper in whom the disease [leprosy] is… shall cry: "Unclean, unclean" [this verse]. There is an allusion here to a subtle but pervasive psychological mechanism that Freud recognized: projection. People who are impure themselves are generally the first to detect uncleanness in others. All too easily we can darkly impugn the motives and intentions of others because unconsciously we attribute to others what we know ourselves to be capable of doing and thinking. He who is himself a leper is the first to cry out at others, "Unclean, unclean!" In the pithy adage of our Sages, "Whoever declares others blemished, it is his own blemish that he ascribes to others" (T.B. Kiddushin 70a). This telling point of our Torah is one side of the coin. The other side of the coin is Ben Zoma' teaching. Are you ready to denounce and vilify others in the blackest terms, perhaps without justification? Take care. You have a clear warning here that in your own house a thorough spring-cleaning is needed. The more you wield the brush with black paint, the darker your self-portrait becomes. If you would rather be a man of honor, to earn and enjoy the esteem of others, learn to view selectively. Observe in others whatever is good and praiseworthy, and honor them for it. Give each man the esteem that is his due. This is the only way, says Ben Zoma, to achieve your own.

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LEVITICUS — 13:46 alone

LEV145 Realizing the pain caused by loshon hora should deter us from speaking it. The Sages said that since the metzora caused the separation of friends and the separation of husbands and wives, he should also be separated from others. (Erchin 16b, cited by Rashi). The isolation of the metzora gave him time for introspection. He could now recall the marriages and friendships his malicious gossip had dissolved. Removed from society, he would feel the mental anguish he cost others when his slander cost them to be ostracized. From here we see that a person should learn from his own experiences the pain that others feel when they suffer. If anyone ever spoke loshon hora against you, you certainly did not like it. Remember those feelings, and refrain from speaking against others. Rabbi Yisroel Salanter used to say, "If a person says that a rabbi cannot sing and a cantor is not a scholar, he is guilty of speaking loshon hora. But if someone says that a rabbi is not a scholar and a cantor cannot sing, it is tantamount to murder." (Tnuas Hamussar, vol. 1, p. 305).

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